Give and Take

There is a saying in North India "Kutch paane ke liye, kuch kona patha hai". This means that to gain something, you have to loose some thing.

This is true in most of the cases. There are two exceptions though---mother and teachers. A mother gives everything to the children not expecting to gain anything,.All she wants is that the child should behave and be "good" in everything. Likewise, teachers share their knowledge and wisdom without expecting anything. When you share your knowledge and wisdom with others, you may gain in that process.

In life, we have to decide whether you are perceived as a "giving" person or a "taking" person..If the perception is that you are a "Giving" person, then you will get spontaneous response and un-stinted co-operation from your staff.
The one who initiates something is a good leader. If you initiate giving things to people rather than you taking from others, they will give you before you take.When you follow the "take and give" policy,people may think bad of you and they will be really bothered whether you will be giving it or not.

In our life, we are both the employer and the employed. We pay for certain services rendered at home and get paid at the office for our services. In both the roles it will be better to be perceived as a "giving" person. I have heard some of my friends complaining that in personal relationship, they are always giving and not receiving. My view is that if God has placed you in a position to "give", we must do so without expecting anything in return. A question may arise that if the recipients are permanently ungrateful,but still need help, what do we do? The answer is that if they really need help and if you are in a position to do so, then "Give".It is very difficult to practice this, but if you try, you will succeed.

This "give and take" policy helps us in ever so many ways. From your own life so far, you can quote examples. Our Kashmir dispute would have been solved long ago, if both the countries had adopted a give and take policy.In Assam, people raise slogans that the Central Government and ULFA should adopt a give and take policy.

In a lighter vein,Bollywood adopts this policy. Salman Khan attends the premiere of Aamir Khan"s film "Jaane Tu Jaane Na". In return, Aamir agrees to participate in Salman Khan!s game show "Dus Ka Dum". Amitabh Bachan lets go off all past malice and attends the same premiere. Then, Aamir Khan comtemplates casting the BIG B in his next film. In Bollywood, everything is about give and take. If you agree to do a favour, it is probably in return for another.This way, it is good for all.

When someone asked Gauthama Buddha what he attained through "enlightenment", he said " I did not gain, but I lost. I lost my ignorance,my dreams,my likes and dislikes, my ambition". To get "enlightenment", he had also to loose something.

Alway be perceived as a "giving" person.